“So you are just a full-time mom?”
How do you guys feel when you hear this question? I get this question often from various kinds of people in varied tones. I am sick of being constantly judged for staying at home with my daughter.
“Don’t you want to do more than just being a stay at home mom?”.
So what? Is life all about money and getting promoted in your job? What if a mom chose to be there for her baby at home during her tender years to provide emotional support rather than sending her to day care?
Why do you judge a mother for putting her family first and career second? Not everybody’s perception about life is the same and we all are unique. If you chose career over your baby’s childhood, I am not going to judge you. I respect your decision and I expect the same from you too. Fine, I understand you are successful professionally but stop looking down on SAHM.
In any case, you think full-time moms are just wasting their time, please keep in mind that every mom strives for her child’s welfare and SAHM are going extra mile and sacrificing their career to ensure that their baby is healthy and happy.
So what if a woman doesn’t contribute to her household monetarily? Why is she treated inferior by her own family and friends? So, is a person’s job title or designation at work is what they are?
May be, they have reasons that are too personal to explain to you. What if they really wanted to work but situations are not in their favour? So stop asking intrusive questions.
What are your come backs when some one asks SAHM shaming questions? I mostly avoid entertaining such conversations as I feel that I don’t owe an explanation to such people. But sometimes when it goes overboard, it is good to put them in their places.
Also, let me know how you feel some one asks these questions and how you respond. You are stronger than you think mama, so don’t let someone make you feel any lesser.