Dance like there’s no mountains of dishes to clean anymore!!!

I grew up watching women dedicating their entire life just for their family. As a young girl, it was deeply etched in my mind that it was the duty of the wife to take care of her husband and kids plus do all the chores of the home. But as I moved out of my native to bigger cities and countries for higher studies, I understood, everything I have been told was just a big fat lie. Anybody could do anything and women were just being used so that men could have comfortable life back then.

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Times have now changed drastically and we (moms) have lots of ways and options to spend few hours for ourselves. Dads are happily willing to step-in to spend time with the kids so that moms can spend some time for self-care. Of course, there are day care and baby sitter options too. But why aren’t we ready to devote some time for ourselves? Is it laziness or are we too busy for self-love or is it because we still that believe self-care is selfishness? What’s the excuse?

The main aim of the post is to remind women, especially moms, of all ages, about the importance self-care. We spend so much time for our family and for work through out the year but what about ourselves?

  • When was the last time you went to spa or gym or a hobby class?
  • When was the last time you took yourself out on a date to your favorite restaurant and had a peaceful meal?
  • When was the last time you spent some time for self-analysis on your life style?
  • When was the last time you cooked your most favorite food just for your taste-buds without considering the fact that your kid hates that dish?
  • When was the last time you danced like there’s no more mountains of dishes for you to clean?

If you have answer for any of the above question, well, then congrats!! If not, you seriously need some self-love, babe!

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Don’t get me in the wrong way. I am not judging you. I was exactly in that position until a few weeks ago. I was so absorbed in other works and stuff and I never really cared for myself. I told myself that my baby is tiny and she needs me 24/7 and I did not want to move away from her just to pamper myself. But when she was sleeping or busy playing with her stuffs or when my husband is watching her, I still didn’t care for myself. I was rather interested in watching TV or I would be so involved with my phone.

One day, the realization happened when my husband had gone to play volley-ball and other games an entire weekend for an event. I was all alone with my daughter with no help, managing her temper tantrums. The fact that my husband gets to enjoy the weekend but I don’t made me lose my cool and once he was back, I took the frustrations out on him. Poor him! It was totally my fault for not prioritizing myself but he got the blame.

I realized where it went wrong and apologized to him but decided to find the solution. I searched for hobby classes around me and finally signed up for one. At this point of time, I really don’t care if I am going to to be an expert in the field or make a career out of it. I just needed an assurance to myself that I am not left out from my own priority list.

Yes, your family needs you but you need your family too. If you are available too much, you know what may happen and may be I can save that for another post.

6 Comments Add yours

  1. Margaret says:

    Definitely not easy. I am working hard on this one which perhaps highlights that I have a way to go but trying to take small steps.
    Thank you for the reminder šŸ™‚

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  2. Mommy Me says:

    Please share your favorite ways of self-care šŸ™‚

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  3. I love practicing yoga but it has been last on my list of priorities since my toddler was born. Thanks for the gentle reminder.

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  4. Mommy Me says:

    I love yoga too. Yes, we moms sometimes overlook our health when have so many things to take care of. Glad this post is of help šŸ™‚

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  5. Mommy Me says:

    Please continue your yoga practice.

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