Hi fellow introvert moms!!
Trust me, I know the struggle. It is so difficult for me to mingle with a group of moms and I realized its not because I don’t have things to say, it’s because I simply don’t feel like saying it.
I can give a speech in a public crowd so confidently and I have been a language trainer for a couple of years. So, it’s not that I don’t know how to speak to people, it’s just that I don’t feel like doing it and I can’t imagine myself discussing random topics with people whom I have met only a few minutes ago. I used to envy people, who could do that so easily.
I, in fact pray that people don’t come and initiate a conversation with me because, I knew they might find me rude or impolite for not answering in a long sentence and for not asking them a question back.
But, I can talk non-stop to people I am really comfortable with and that makes me feel really good. Somehow, I am sufficient with just two or three people being there for me and I don’t really need a lot of people to share the stories of my life.
Initially, I thought I was reserved, bashful, I was bad at making friends and what not! But once I realized, it’s just one of my natural traits to be introvert, and I am not shy or insecure to meet people, I felt even better.
So, fellow introvert moms, don’t beat yourself so hard for not being able to make friends with other moms. It’s perfectly okay to not having a group of mom friends and it’s okay if you just enjoy your own company. If you have one or two trust-worthy, caring friends with common interests to talk to you when you have your lows, I think you are good. Plus, we have internet and social media to clarify parenting queries these days, so you don’t really have to have a real connection with moms and dads.
Yes, I do take breaks from my kid when I am overwhelmed. I just spend my night with books, read blogs, take a stroll, have long phone conversations with my mom or watch a movie sitting on my cozy couch when my husband watches her.
How do you feel about being an introvert mom? Let me know in the comments!