I came across a post in a Facebook group yesterday and it made me ponder so much about this generation’s parenting style. It had me thinking about how we are different from our previous generations and why we are so stressed and anxious all the time. I was also wondering how come our parents were so cool most of the time and how everything is so different now.
I immediately decided to make a post on this and I also felt this topic is the need of the hour. Parenting can be stressful for a number of reasons and it is important for us to analyse the factor that is causing you extreme pressure or distress. That element should be rightly treated or completely eliminated so that your parenting journey can be trouble-free.
According to me, the following are the main causes for stressful parenting and if we stop practising these things, we can happily bring our little bundles of joy up.
- We have unlimited number of online and offline resources that talk about parenting. These materials are overwhelming most of the times and they confuse parents so much that we end up having no idea about the right style of parenting.
- We forget very often that, every child is different and unique and so should be the parenting style. One size doesn’t fit everybody and if a routine/ schedule works for one person, that doesn’t mean it will work for you too. You have to tweak the plans according to your life-style and your child’s interests and characteristics.
- Social media these days have been doing more harm than good. Whenever we see an Instagram or a Facebook post about a child achieving milestones or where a child shows his extraordinary talents, we immediately start comparing that to our child. This is one of the best examples of worst parenting pattern.
- And we don’t stop it right there. We take it to the next level by feeling guilty for not doing enough for our kids and we start blaming ourselves. There starts your unnecessary tension and we sometimes take it out on our kids. Some parents end up coercing their kids to learn something that they are not interested in. I feel these parents are just punishing themselves and their kids just to please some random people on social media. If the child is genuinely interested, that’s a different case.
This is a very vast topic and all possible solutions cannot be packed in this single post. So, I am stopping right here for now and I will be sharing more about having stress-free parenting journey in the future posts. If you have more ideas on positive parenting, please do share and I will be more than happy to implement it.